Granted, it’s not just progressives that take on the victim mentality and no, I’m not about to say that I’m a victim since I’m not. But the whole idea of “It’s not my fault, there was no way out of my situation” can be very real in some instances, but like so many other situations in life, it’s one that gets taken advantage of without cease considering that too many people will get to thinking that maybe being the victim isn’t so bad. After all, it absolves them of any personal responsibility, which is just too hard for some folks to take on apparently. Life isn’t fair? Blame someone else. Work is hard? Blame someone else. You’re not where you want to be in life? Blame someone else.
Do you see a pattern emerging?
Those that choose to be victims won’t since they’ll actually look for the path that gets them sympathy and yell at anyone that points this out that they don’t want to be miserable, they don’t want to be taken advantage of, but it just happens. And once one person starts feeling sorry for them it’s likely that this victim mentality will grow stronger, they’ll want more of that sympathy, they’ll believe that they can’t do it on their own, that they can’t stand on their own two feet and do something positive. It’s a mentality that’s taken root and become an ideology that many have decided is worth pursuing, and unfortunately, it’s why a lot of people aren’t where they want to be.
If life is hard, then be harder, or be smarter. Victims think they have a spine when they stand up to their ‘oppressors’ by causing a ruckus or a disturbance. A spine is what you have when you learn to take control of your own life without making it everyone else’s problem. A heart is what you have when you look forward to seeing how you can better your life, not leave drama and destruction in your wake because you ‘stood up’. There are a lot of differences between a victor and a victim, but one of the most important is that a victor pushes forward without blaming anyone for their lot in life, a victim will single out everyone that’s ever wronged them and make it the world’s problem, not theirs.