True humility doesn’t really come when you sit around stating that you know how to be humble but choose not to be. Acting like the saint while you’re still willing to argue anyone under the table isn’t just ‘standing your ground’ for your beliefs, it’s denying that anyone else’s words have worth, that the other side of the argument holds no validity. When you can’t admit that there might be another line of thought worth listening to because YOUR side is right, then you have no real concept of what humility is.
The whole concept of being ‘right’ isn’t always about being correct in your assumption or understanding of facts or feelings. Those that understand the sting of being wrong and acknowledge it from time to time, especially when it’s needed, tend to be far wiser than those who plow forward thinking that their life experience and desperate need to be right is what justifies their attitude that they’re always correct and everyone else is simply wrong. It’s strange, but like it or not we can’t all be right all the time, no matter much ego and our fragile sense of self seem to indicate otherwise.
Fighting for what you think is right is wise, but learning when to back down because you’re wrong is just as important. If you want to seem smart then you’ll come armed with facts and possibly argue until you’re blue in the face, but if you want to seem wise you’ll consider the arguments of the other side. Even if you don’t agree with them, which is quite common in the world as we know it now, you’ll at least try to look at it from their point of view, at least for a moment or two.
Wisdom is more than being intelligent, it’s knowing when to be graciously right and humble when you’re wrong. It’s a lesson that many people in this world still need.