It’s hard to admit when you need help sometimes. It’s even harder to admit that you don’t know what you’re doing when you have a set direction, an idea, and yet no clue on how to implement either of them. That’s how I feel in starting my own blogging site. I know what I want to do, I know what I can do, but getting there is a gap that I have yet to cross and to this point I haven’t found the materials I need to build that particular bridge yet. I do have a mentor that is willing to help, but listening to him at this point is harder than most things for a couple of reasons. One, I’m older now and set in my ways, which hampers my ability to keep an open mind at times, and two, I’m just too damned stubborn sometimes.
Thankfully I see the point of listening to those that have been there, done that, and can possibly guide me through the steps I need in order to make this blog a workable thing. Believe it or not, opening your mind to new possibilities is easy enough when you see the crushing defeat that someone who’s been there predicted might come. Even if you haven’t gone over that precipice, and it’s a hope that many of us won’t, it’s possible to come to the edge and see just what might happen if you keep going in the direction you were going.
Listening to those with experience isn’t hard, it’s accepting what they have to say when it argues with what you feel is the right course.
Blogging doesn’t have to be a business of course, it can be something fun and engaging that allows you to meet new people across the web and can help you to share ideas with others. But for those writers that want to get paid for doing what they love to do, blogging is one of the simplest things, in theory, that you could possibly fall into. The difficulty as I’ve seen thus far is getting anyone to pay attention and to find your niche, the one spot in writing that can be yours and will grant you the kind of following you want. So far my followers have been great and they’re extremely appreciated, but there’s always that desire to reach more, to inform more people and to make them realize that you’re worth listening to.
Getting to that point, to where you can speak to someone and have them believe that you know what they want to hear and know something about it, is a tough step. But once it’s accomplished people will seek you, they’ll tell others, and your following will grow. My mentor might argue vehemently with this, and he has told me more than once at this point that it’s all about knowing your market, which I can agree to, but it’s about knowing people as well. Instinctual writing is just as strong as popular writing, though in my belief it’s far less lucrative as people seem to be more uneasy about sharing what they feel deep down inside than they do when it comes to popular opinions and creating the kind of buzz that gets them noticed.
It’s instincts that make a writer however.
All the prose, structure, marketability, and reading in the world mean nothing if you don’t have the writer’s instinct. If you don’t have a story to tell or the desire to tell it then writing is not the field for you. We will all tell a story in some way, but in terms of being a writer, of being a blogger, of being anyone that wants to share the many stories they have inside, instinct is what helps to define us.
I trust my mentor because he has that instinct, and I trust his judgment because he has the experience. But I trust my instincts as well, and I believe that people want someone to open up to that won’t belittle them, that will share with them when they want, and that will be forthright when they need it.
Am I wrong?