Entitlement-definition

What are we entitled to? Those of us that were born well before or during this century are entitled to just about as much as anyone that’s ever drawn breath. We’re entitled to that breath, and the next, and the many that come after that. We’re entitled to the right to survive, to live, and little else. What else are we entitled to? Absolutely nothing. This world doesn’t work on entitlement. If you feel as though people should give you something as thanks for being here then you’ve come to the wrong place. If you aren’t ready to do the work and put in the effort to survive then chances are you might not make it that far.

The saddest part isn’t even the fact that such folks that don’t want to work for their livelihood might end up on the street, it’s the fact that some people will continue to give and give without any sign of thanks or even the smallest hint of gratitude. Some might call that building up good karma, and they’re allowed to keep that opinion. Others might call it enabling a lazy oaf that’s not worth the effort.

Harsh I know, but unless you’re a child or a person that can’t fend for yourself or contribute to life in some way, there’s no such thing as a freebie.

There’s two things that anyone owes you in this life, and one of them leaves town in a big damned hurry the moment you’re born.

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You’re born into this world knowing nothing, being able to do nothing but cry, draw breath, and cry some more. Your other body functions come along in due time, but what you’re entitled to at that moment is what you’re given; love, attention, food, and a warm place to call home for the next several years until someone steps up and lets you know that you’ll have to start earning it.

Children don’t always understand this until later on in life, but the lesson that comes from earning their privileges instead of seeing them as their right is vital to their development. Too many people in this world tend to think that they’re entitled to everything when in truth they’re entitled to nothing but the chance to keep breathing. This problem tends to occur at a young age when a child is given things without being made to work for them.

Sure, it’s unreasonable to demand a very young child to do all that much, but they can still learn through following after their parent and being shown on a constant basis how things are done. Some kids even want to help as they grow, and that’s great since it becomes a chance to foster that sense of needing to earn what they get rather than have someone just give it to them because they want it.

The more a child a learns how to earn something, the greater the chance becomes that they’ll feel that sensation that comes with accomplishment.

It’s easy to keep wanting more when you haven’t earned it.

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The reason for this is pretty easy to sort out, but it’s also kind of tragic. Those that aren’t taught to earn what they get don’t have the understanding that others do of what it means to actually earn something, to realize that you took the time and effort that allowed you to feel that sense of accomplishment that comes when you reach a certain goal and actually earn what you get. I can recall my older brother always getting so excited when he would buy something expensive. He would jump up and down like a little kid and try to get me just as excited. It wasn’t until I bought my first TV that I finally understood just why he acted in such a manner.

It was because we’d both earned the money to go and buy what we wanted. It wasn’t just given to us, we had to earn it, and that made it all the more special. The act of giving isn’t a bad or negative thing at all since if a person actually wants to give you something it’s considered rude to refuse. But demanding everything is far different, as it speaks of entitlement, not gratitude. It’s very easy to get excited when you’ve earned something you’ve wanted for so long, or if someone is willing to give you something that you desired. A demand is an empty plea, a hole that no amount of desire can fill.

It is better to earn than to demand.

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Some might scoff at the idea that scraping and scratching for anything, trying to earn enough money for a desired object or moment, is ever worth it. But instant gratification at the snap of your fingers is a far more degrading fate than having to wait and save for that which you want. Earning your way in life is hard, it’s back-breaking at times, but it fills the soul and broadens the heart. Demanding everything creates an emptiness that cheapens one’s life to no end.

It’s better to open your eyes and understand that earning your place in this world is a far better feeling than demanding that it be handed to you.

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