Is it just me or are manners becoming a thing of the past? There are still those moments when good manners are able to be seen in society, when people say “thank you” or “please” or exhibit other good manners that are gradually disappearing. Back in the day, yes, back in the days of old folks, kids, adolescents, and even adults were expected to be polite, to take the time to care about other peoples’ feelings, and to be considerate to everyone until the moment when it was proven that said individuals didn’t deserve such respect. In short, the world seems to have had much better manners once upon a time, though perhaps that is a matter of perception.
People still practice good manners, yet it seems that younger generations are missing out.
Again this is a matter of perspective, but it would almost seem at times that younger folks are not understanding what it means to be polite, respectful, or even mildly considerate. Far too often these days it would seem that the general attitude of many individuals is to get what they want, do as they please, and not worry about how it affects anyone else. This is a much larger matter than this article will cover, but the more common niceties need to be observed at times. It takes but a moment to be polite, and perhaps another moment to show respect to another human being.
Remember the value of discipline?
Many upon many would argue over this point and several theories would be valid. Teaching a child respect does not mean beating them within an inch of their lives. But discipline is often more than a simple sit down to speak with your child of why you expect certain things from them. There is a great deal of argument when it comes to the type of physical discipline many of us received as children, but psychological discipline can be every bit as harsh if one takes the time to look at it. The idea of disciplining a child and teaching them how to respect one another and others is not an excuse to harm them in any way, but rather a chance to show them how to live within a society where there are rules and other people. The role of discipline is more or less to teach children, and adolescents, how to respect those around them and what kind of behaviors are expected to be exhibited. There’s no need for indoctrination, but there is a need for kids to understand the value of respecting others and treating them with a measure of dignity.
A child will learn how to treat others by what they see, hear, and experience firsthand.
Those whose children respect nothing and behave like little monsters no matter the situation tend to wonder why they can’t control their kids. Unfortunately, many times it is because the children have not been taught the manners they need to exhibit in the company of others, or they have learned a little too well from the examples they receive at home. For instance, a child whose parents yell at each other and at them all the time will likely feel the need to raise their voice to make their point, or simply because it’s what they are used to. A child that is exposed to physical violence in the home might lash out at others as they think it’s the expected form of communication. Manners come from home, and they are cultivated within the given environment in which a child is raised and exposed to during their most formative years. If that child, or children, are lacking in role models or a stable home life where manners are expected to be observed, then the chances they’ll be a disrespectful child that can become a disrespectful adult increase so long as they continue to witness such a lifestyle.
The discussions that could be opened by such a subject are long and varied, but one unifying thread is that wherever a child learns their manners, the first example will always be within the closest environment that they observe. Strive to provide a positive and uplifting environment for a child and the results can be quite impressive.