Tell your story before you worry about padding your bank account.
I’ve heard it more than once that everyone is seeking those dollar signs and are ready and willing to do what they want to make sure that their account grows along with their acclaim. I might be a sucker, I might be a fool, but one thing I know I’m not is a sellout, since I’ll tell my story in the hopes that people will enjoy it, and that it will inspire others to do something great. I’m not an idealist, and I’m not foolish enough to think that living without pay and writing without wanting to become known is the ultimate goal. But if all you’re writing for is the money you might as well own up to it and make it known that your stories are little more than minor variations on a mold that was made a long time ago. Be fair to yourself and your readers and be original.
Money is important, there’s no doubt.
It’s important to make money to survive, there’s no doubt of that, especially since people need to pay their bills, they need to eat, they need to support their family and so on. But if money is the only drive you have when it comes to writing then there’s something missing. People might scoff at the idea that passion is that important, but one has to remember that people who read your material, if they’re in need of a great story, will know when someone is dialing it in versus when they dig deep deep and seek to tell a story that will last. Passion is what separates the great stories from those are trying to make a few bucks.
I know, people who make the big bucks and those who support them are going to counter with the idea that if one makes the money, then there’s no reason to keep up that type of passion, especially the type that can wear a person out. That’s kind of like riding a wave with the idea that it’s going to last forever, without seeing that rocky shore come closer and closer. Passion doesn’t keep you off the rocks, but it sure as hell teaches you how to dodge, evade, and navigate a landscape that’s ready and willing to tear apart any writer that doesn’t know how to handle the pitfalls that come with writing.
Here endeth the sermon…for now.
You want to write? You want to make money? Then reach down deep and find the passion you need to make it happen. Change as you feel the need, not just when people tell you to. Adjust, evolve, adapt, and keep the passion that brought you to this game. The moment you search for dollar signs is the moment that you lose sight of what it is you’re all about. Your writing is meant to show your state of mind and how you want to speak to the people. Accept the money if it comes, use it to your advantage, but my advice is to keep that passion for as long as it lasts. The money will come if it’s meant to, and if you learn how to make flow.
Write, just write, and let the money come if it will.
A lot of people fail before they ever get started because they get in their own way.
This is bound to be a short article mostly because, well, getting started with a story is something that requires a lot of effort, but only a single step. You’ve likely heard that before, right? There are entire textbooks dedicated to the idea of writing, what it takes, and what it requires to help a story move forward. So I won’t take up a lot of your time, but I will say that starting a story is just about as tough as finishing one. The rest is just figuring out the details.
Keep it simple, don’t complicate things from the start.
A story is going to get complicated one way or another since the moving elements that make it work will eventually collide and create a bit of chaos that can spiral into utter madness very quickly. There’s no need to get into the mental thicket that quickly, especially since moving into it slowly and surely, while following an outline, will help to keep things sorted in some manner. There are a couple of ways to avoid getting bogged down that quickly, such as:
Brainstorming: This is one of the most basic methods you can use to create and refine an idea to be used at various points throughout the process. In fact, this is one of the best ways to get an idea rolling since it connects the various pieces of the idea that might come at different moments.
Outline: I know I’ve worked with plenty of outlines and they do help if your thoughts tend to scatter. Keeping things neat and tidy does help to keep the story rolling forward in a manner that avoids the habit of rambling on and on. It’s not perfect, but it’s a nice point of reference to have at hand.
Notes: This is reliable, but not nearly as much since notes can be lost, shuffled, or mixed up in various ways. From napkins to notebooks, notes are a very rough way to when it comes to piecing a story together.
How you go about putting your story together is up to you. But going freestyle isn’t a great way to do it, I’ll say that to each ear that’s willing to bend to listen.
Take the first step, then take another.
In other words, start out with the first sentence, then write the next, and then find your way through the first paragraph. Once you’re past that hurdle you’ll find that it gets a little easier with each sentence that comes after. You’ll no doubt need help as you progress, but that’s what sites like this are for. The help you need is the help you’ll eventually want.
Just don’t be shy about asking for help, take my word on that.
A writer’s opinion is just as versatile as anyone’s, and more so in some cases.
A writer is there to write, not for you to criticize their mindset, or to say ‘you wouldn’t understand’. Writers are there to be open, to eliminate the barriers to one line of thought or another, and to bring one story or another to life. Sure, there are writers who will refuse to see one line of thought or another, we’re human after all, but assuming that a writer won’t be able to change their mindset or widen it to encompass different lifestyles and what they mean to people is akin to someone saying that ‘you’re this gender/race, you wouldn’t be able to understand’. Without the needed information, of course we won’t. But is it possible for a writer to learn? I did note that we’re human, so yes, of course, we’re definitely able to learn, to take direction, and respect the lifestyles of others.
Seriously, we can write about anything if we’re given the chance. You don’t want your life to be misrepresented? Then let a writer know what you’re all about, or write your story on your own.
Writers aren’t bound by opinion.
It doesn’t matter who a writer votes for if they’re open-minded, or what they feel is right. A good writer can open their mind to other venues of thought, perhaps not to agree, but at least to understand and comprehend. A great writer can write anything, no matter the point of view. Some might call this being shiftless, faithless, and without any true moral center.
Those that say such things aren’t quite as open-minded as they think.
A personal anecdote.
Not long ago I responded to a Craigslist ad for an individual that needed a screenwriter for an animated series. While the individual explained that he was an LGBTQUIA+ ally, and that he was firmly set against Donald Trump (not sure why that mattered since this is 2022, not 2020), and needed someone that could understand the mindset of a transgender individual as well as the LGBT community. In other words, this individual wanted someone that could think the way they wanted them to, and could adhere to what they wanted to see. In all honesty, wanting someone that can tell the story you want isn’t a bad thing.
But upon admitting that I didn’t care for President Biden, and did in fact vote for Trump, the pause in their voice became a little too obvious. Did I vote for Trump? Yes, I did. Do I like him? Not really, but it felt that he was the lesser of two evils at the time, much as he was when he ran against Hilary Clinton. But to be fair, I don’t care about this, because it doesn’t define my mindset. I don’t care about gender, about race, about skin color, or political affiliation. I’m here to tell a story, that’s my purpose and my goal. I’m a writer, a teller of tales, and someone that sees human beings, no matter how they identify, as human beings.
Quite honestly, the idea of rejecting a writer’s service based on who they voted for is a bit ridiculous. We writers are here to tell a tale, to continue the truths and fictions of our species, no matter how we need to think or believe in order to get the stories out where people can see them. Those that are hung up on finding someone that thinks as they do without seeking to help others understand their values and way of life are, sadly, those who have convinced themselves that inclusion is what they say it is, rather than the idea of sharing what makes us unique.
We are writers, and while belief is important, it is also fluid and versatile enough to accept more than one set of ideas.
We are the lords and ladies of creation, yet we are still just players.
In the beginning we are as in the end.
We do not aspire, we simply do.
There is the dream, tempered by the reality, and given form by the thought.
By our thought, by our dreams, and by the reality we impose.
It’s a madness of the sort that only poets and writers can truly understand, and even among those only a few can comprehend.
Comprehension, that is a truly frightening thing.
We play with words, we are those that can immortalize, and those that can do what must be said and say what must be done.
It is confusion, this comprehension, and in the midst of it all, it is the single word that carries power, the one among all that is ever elusive, ever there, always waiting for us to return to, to remind us what it is that drives us, what keeps the fountain flowing.
Every last soul that has ever put ink to paper, ever put finger to key, every vague idea that swirls inward from the maelstrom we call the world, the universe, and everything in between and without.
For everything that could come, for everything that has and will come, we are there. We are the ones that do not deny the voice that tells us, “this must come to pass”, or “this must be remembered”.
It is who we are, what we do, and through everything, it is the lifeblood of those who cherish this timeless art form, this undeniable urge to say, in their own manner, “I AM”.
We are not gods, we create, and yet in the process, we are created. It is our words, penned and copied throughout the ages that have helped to shape the world, to say that, “WE ARE”, that “WE EXIST”.
Whether tyrant or savior, good or evil, saint or sinner, the words that are put to time’s test are those that will come to define the world we know. Memory is not enough, though it serves.
As do we.
We are the lords of creation, the ones whose words will last and echo into the ages, for all to see, and all to remember.
Is it truth?
The better question is: Does it matter?
We are the lords and ladies of creation, and by our words, the world we know is shaped, molded, and given to the next generation, and so on and so forth until the whole mess ends, only to be rebuilt, and to crumble again.
We are the lords and ladies of Creation, and this is our legacy.
It’s irritating that women love jerks, isn’t it? But there are reasons.
Yes, women gravitate toward jerks, and it’s a pain in the ass. Unfortunately, some ladies do have their reasons. A lot of guys don’t want to listen, or they want something that’s well out of their grasp. A lot of guys don’t want to lower their expectations. But the truth fellas is this: women are going to make up their own minds. They might not always enjoy the consequences, but they do.
It’s about confidence.
Like it or not fellas, confidence is key with a lot of people. It’s a strength and weakness thing that a lot of people don’t enjoy hearing about, since there are those who believe that being a nice guy should be the ticket to making people happy. That’s a nice thought, but it’s not realistic. Jerks have an edge because they’re confident in themselves, at least on the outside.
Self-confidence is attractive to many people. Women love this quite often. Not all women care about it. But enough want the confidence that exudes from a jerk’s pores that it’s been noticed for years. Granted, not every man that feels confident in their person is a jerk. But this goes to prove a point, if you know what you’re worth and know how to prove that you are, people take notice.
Women like the dangerous aspect
This is kind of debatable since women do like the edgy, rebellious type. This much has been proven more than once over the years. But unfortunately, this is a quality that backfires on a lot of women at one point or another. Either the bad boys grow up, get tamed, or they somehow reveal a vulnerability that topples their entire image.
There’s also the very real possibility that they’re such narcissists that women will have to fight for their time in front of the mirror. That’s kind of a funny image to be honest.
It’s annoying as hell, but it happens.
The fact is that yes, that women gravitate toward jerks, and it’s tough to understand. Nice guys aren’t owed the attention of a woman just because they open a door or are willing to buy women anything they want. But ladies, and I say this with respect, finding a man that treats you kindly but will take no shit is tough for one reason: you don’t appear to be looking for that.
Have you ever seen a person get so mad that they keep repeating themselves?
If you watch YouTube or are a creator, or watch TikTok or Karen videos, then you’ve likely seen this happen more than once. The Broken Record Syndrome, as I’m calling it and a few others might know it, is very real. People get so upset or so threatened or so triggered that they end up repeating the same thing. Sometimes they’ll do this for a few seconds. Some do it for minutes at a time.
The idea of a broken record is that it gets stuck and can’t escape that one point where it skipped. This same idea appears to apply to people who are so angry that their thought process breaks down. They simply go back to the last thing they said in order to convince themselves that they’re saying something worthwhile.
Often this happens during a verbal fight or an altercation that might even feel staged. But the general rule of this syndrome is that the person speaking becomes stuck on a single line that they repeated over and over. It becomes repetitive after the second time, and irritating every time after this. Unfortunately, assaulting a person to see if it helps their internal needle get back on track isn’t allowed, but it’s certainly tempting at times.
Why do people do this? Well, the unfortunate fact is that this can’t be chalked up to a mental condition, unless one is ready to make a quip about such things. But people continually repeat themselves for the same reason they do the same things in their lives. They expect a result at some point.
It might be interesting to conduct a study of this with others in attendance. THere are plent yof people out there who wonder about the same thing, don’t you think?
Those who want the benefits of citizenry without the responsibilities are children that need guidance.
The Sovereign Citizen movement is, in simple terms, ridiculous. It’s very easy to state that we as Americans do not live in a perfect system. Our history is not perfect. The current state of our country isn’t perfect. But it’s our home, and it requires responsible individuals who are accountable for their actions. In other words, the home we care about requires us to take care of it in more ways than one.
Wait, you are or you aren’t a citizen?
Sovereign citizens are those folks who believe that they don’t belong to the United States. That’s all well and good, since no one owns anyone. But here’s the catch. If we live in the USA, then like it or not, we’re bound by its laws. Calling oneself a diplomat without any recognized credentials doesn’t work. So, sorry SovCits, but your movement is ridiculous and more than a little childish.
But they have paperwork and the right to challenge the laws of the land, right? That’s true, people do have the right to speak out and demonstrate their rights. There are certain inalienable rights that can’t be taken away from regular citizens. But here’s the trick; if you no longer identify as a US citizen, then you don’t benefit from the same rights that a US citizen is given. A person still has human rights, those never go away, but if you don’t want to follow the laws of the land, you’re still going to be prosecuted. If the law allows a person to be taken to task, then it’s going to happen.
It’s amusing, really
What’s really funny about this is that if someone didn’t follow the laws in another country, they’re going to get popped in the same way.
The long and short of the SovCit movement is this: it’s an argument to have everything without being held accountable. Sadly, that just doesn’t work. The best way to put is that sovereign citizens are misguided. That’s a nice way to put it.
Movies were judged by how entertaining they were at one time. That’s the truth, whether one cares to believe it or not. But the current era sees movies judged by various ideas such as diversity and inclusion. Unfortunately, these are seen as just as important as plot, dialogue, and overall story. What’s saddening about this is the fact that movies must bend their knee to masters that have no skin in the game. In other words, they’re pleasing people that sacrifice nothing to make sure they get what they want.
Representation Should be Natural, not Forced
If a movie takes place in Africa, or Europe, or China, then naturally it should depict the dominant population. A movie that takes place in America should be diverse, because the country is diverse. However, the plot and storyline should also take precedence.
A good example are the Black Panther movies. They’re about an African nation, no matter that it’s fictionalized. So people of color should be featured, correct? And yet series such as The Witcher and the ill-fated Rings of Power are dragged through the mud concerning diversity. They HAVE to feature people of color for the sake of the story, right? It’s amusing that no one makes a fuss about injecting people of other cultures into a Black Panther movie. The double standard is rather easy to see.
Movies Can No Longer Tell a Fictional Story Without Commenting on Reality
It’s understandable that directors will want to ‘say something’ with their movies. But fans tend to read too much into a movie. On the other hand, some directors feel the need to add their political and/or social commentary into a movie. Telling a story is a means of escaping the real world, not a desire to roll in the problems that are experienced in real life. The idea of ‘to each their own’ is still important. But there are times when one has to wonder if anyone is willing to simply tell a story.
Movies need to be movies. Reality is always there waiting.
A reality check isn’t enough any longer, a lot of people need a healthy slap of realism to the face.
When reality knocks it’s not a microaggression, it’s a chance to welcome reality back into the mix. Way too often in the past several years many people have found it tough to say something without suffering for it. Racist, misogynist, ableist, and many other -ists and -isms have emerged from the muck of humanity to bother those who simply want to go on about their day.
The BLM has risen to convince people that they’re victims. The Proud Boys fight against the BLM. People fight over equal rights that they already possess. Life was a mess before, now it’s a soupy morass that sucks at the collective boots of humanity. Seriously, it does feel as though people have forgotten what it takes to treat each other like human beings.
It’s not a universal feeling, thankfully. There are still plenty of people who are willing to live and let live. Women have their issues, physically, mentally, emotionally, and so do men. But at some point, many people started allowing those with an axe to grind to shove a finger in their face and tell them that they’re the problem. The truth of this is that people CAN be a problem. But life is filled with problems, and it doesn’t require human beings to make things worse.
Personal accountability, responsibility, and accepting the world as it is and can be, not as one demands it to be, is important. There’s so much to unpack when it comes to humanity that it would take several volumes to explain it all. There are also many ways to start this process of self-realization.
Own up to your bullshit. Life isn’t fair, and that isn’t going to change. What you can do is realize that every little perceived microaggression is not a stab at you as a person. Instead, it’s the people around us attempting to reason with the world in a way that they understand.
In other words: grow up and go on about your day. You get to do what you want unless you disable yourself, emotionally and mentally.
Grow up, live your life and take responsibility for it.
Differences between people are used to divide when they could bring people together.
People want to live together, but somehow, they can’t figure out how. As each year passes people find ways to divide society. Folks somehow justify this by stating that they’re attempting to unify society, by weeding out the harmful elements.
If there’s anything that’s truly abhorrent to me, and to many others, it’s the idea that excluding others for arbitrary reasons is within the same vicinity as ‘okay’. But that’s my opinion, along with many others. Opinions are like assholes, bellybuttons, and many other analogies that people come up with. Everyone has them, and sometimes they can reek to high heaven. Yeah, it’s an old and tired analogy, but thankfully it’s still applicable today since people are still creatures of habit, as we’ve seen so often over the past several years.
People can’t live together indefinitely, that’s a proven fact that’s occurred more than once in human history. We’re too different, we don’t agree on several points of life that feel trivial, and too many folks are insistent that their way is the ONLY way to live. Seriously, people get older, they age, and yet they still manage to regress at times when it comes to the beliefs they hold onto for so long.
There are facts we need to remember
Let’s break it down, just so people get the information quick and without too much fanfare. I get it, the attention span of the average individual is fairly low.
We’re not all the same, we’re different, and this is an immutable fact.
Humanity did have a common ancestor, but as the species spread out, we differentiated according to our environment. In other words, folks like Nick Cannon are full of it when they state that one race of people are violent due to a lack of melanin. Sorry Nick, white folks were violent, but there other reasons, and the lack of melanin came from the lack of need for it as people moved to locations where the sun didn’t shine as often, y’know, like the far north.
Slavery is not a white invention, since historical facts have arisen over the years that show how slaves have been a part of society since before recorded history. Like it or not, the human race as a whole is a violent species, not just white people, not just black people, and not just one race in general.
It is possible to live with each other. It’s not easy, but it’s possible, if you practice tolerance and acceptance.
You don’t run the world. Even the POTUS doesn’t run the world. You have control over yourself, that’s it.
This world will likely never reach a utopia stage. That’s a sad fact to think about, but it’s realistic. What we can do is at least attempt to get along with each other. In this manner life becomes livable. The only question now is when and if it will happen.
Since the dawn of time the necessity of being able to attract the opposite sex has been a major issue with most individuals.
The effort needed to gain the attention of a woman is something that most men would agree is at times a great burden and yields results that can vary in many ways. No matter how nice one is, or how courteous, the outcomes of such efforts are rarely ever guaranteed.
One has to wonder then how the men that have little to no problem picking up women do it. Is it wealth, or being handsome, or a quality that is not so easy to see but is somehow sensed by women?
Why would those men that are insufferably arrogant have more luck than the men who would gladly treat women with little more than kindness?
Why would an overabundance of confidence eclipse the desire to honor and love a woman as she deserves?
Every question ever asked by a man seeking the gentle attention of a woman boils down to just a few simple tips and tricks that are easy to learn and almost guaranteed to work. With the proven methods in this book you will find yourself able to finally get into a woman’s mind and figure out what she wants.
By doing this you will eventually realize that you’ve had the tools to get what you wanted out of a woman all along, and will finally be able to do something with it.
Each chapter is broken up into differing sections that can tell you how to look, how to react, and will give you a better chance of understanding what women want and how to read them in order to get what you desire.
So let’s get started!
Appearance and Hygiene
How you look, smell, and appear to others does have some bearing on whether or not people want to be around you, women especially. If you have severe body odor or don’t bother running a brush over your teeth in the morning it’s likely that anyone invading your personal space won’t be a problem.
Like it or not, women often take a very dim view of a man that doesn’t entertain the notion of taking care of his personal hygiene.
The way you dress can also be an indicator to women of whether or not you’re worth hanging around. Even to the most laid back individual in the world, someone wearing stained boxers and a yellowing t-shirt likely won’t be the ideal person to shack up with.
Women desire a man that not only smells good and looks clean, but also knows how to dress.
If you know how to dress for success then you’re doing something right.
You don’t have to possess the body of Greek god to attract women, but it does help if you know how to take care of yourself and at least present a confident front that shows others that you are aware of how you look.
It might seem silly at times to have to pretend to be something you’re really not, but in truth you’re not pretending, you’re building an image. And in another sense, you’re throwing up that front to change the attitudes of those around you.
In short, you’re playing a sort of mind trick upon women that is almost guaranteed to work.
It might take more than one time to make this particular trick take effect, but as Joshua Pellicer would claim it is highly effective and can negate all but the most extreme physical and social failings that you might possess.
So long as you keep it clean, keep yourself groomed, and wear clothing that shows at least some taste, women will take note. You might not get a second glance as often as you’d like, but all in all you’ll at least be getting looks from women that probably wouldn’t give you the decency of an eye roll in normal circumstances.
It’s amazing what a shower and nice clothes can do to alter your appearance. It’s even more amazing what it can do to the mindset of those around you that might have already made the assumption that you’re not worth talking to. While appearance alone isn’t enough to bank on, it’s that initial look that allows people to make the assumptions that they will work with until they get to know you.
If you give them a reason to wonder and perhaps even think that you’re worth the trouble of a second glance you’ve already done something right.
So here are a few tips you might want to think about when determining what kind of appearance you want to project:
Wear a scented deodorant
It’s been scientifically proven that women go nuts for men that smell nice, and not just because of the odor. Knowing that you smell good will give you an air of confidence that women absolutely love, even if they won’t admit it. You’ll walk taller, have a little more swagger in your step, and present an air of superiority that you might otherwise be lacking.
Eat a lot of garlic.
This might seem kind of confusing since most people would avoid garlic before a date or when you need to be around others.
However, many studies have proven that women actually prefer the smell of garlic on a man. Keep in mind that good hygiene mixed with garlic would be a lot more preferable than BO and garlic mixed together.
Keep it classy, not gassy.
Grow some light facial hair.
In keeping with statements made by Joshua Pellicer and Derek Rake, both of whom discuss the secret to attracting women, the trick of facial hair is to not let it grow out too long, but to develop some serious stubble that can help to accentuate your features.
To many women stubble says dominance, experience, and a slightly aggressive manner that can be more appealing. While women don’t necessarily want to be dominated, they want a man that can be dominant and present an air of confidence that is ultimately attractive.
Show your scars
Now this doesn’t mean strip down to show an appendix scar or anything else that might be off-putting, but anything above the waist that is minor enough to be displayed should be done so with pride.
To women this shows that you’ve had a rough life, faced adversity of some sort, and come out the other side walking tall and unafraid to show the damage that’s been done.
In other words it shows that you are confident and strong enough to overcome most any challenge, and that is a decided turn on for many women.
Stay physically fit.
You don’t need to be gym rat or a bodybuilder to attract women, but in all honesty women do go nuts over a man with some toned meat on his bones. Even the strongest-willed women in the world want someone there who can share with them, serve as a protector when it’s needed, and present an air of confidence that they find so necessary.
In case you missed the point so far, a lot of what women want a sense of confidence and a dominant display of masculinity that is not overbearing but pleasingly attractive.
No matter what you do, hold your head up high, your back straight, and put a little swagger into your walk. Women will take notice.
Practice good hygiene.
No one wants to be around someone that stinks, woman or not. Take a shower, brush your teeth and hair, and pop a breath mint if you need to.
Be proud of your body.
If you have blemishes or scars don’t bother hiding them. If you show no outward sign that it bothers you the chances are good that they won’t bother anyone else.
Now that we’ve gotten past the initial impression that your looks can give, let’s delve a little deeper into the mix and talk about your personality. You might be one of those unlucky men that believe women like arrogant and confident men.
Well, you’d be half right.
You know why women go towards the men that eventually treat them like dirt, right?
A lot of men would look at that type of situation and probably think that the guy had something that they didn’t, and they’d be right. While an arrogant guy that has all the swagger and seemingly all the women he can handle would appear to have all the luck, the truth is that they’re typically trying to cash a check that their odious personality can’t cover.
They’re confident, they know how to talk to women to get their attention, and they know how to appear appealing, but after that there’s little substance left over.
The trouble with this is that by the time women realize this sad fact, they are hooked and can’t seem to get away no matter how much they try. That charm that such men exude, which is usually false bravado layered with self-confidence, is more than enough to snare some women and make them think that they can change the more negative aspects of a man.
It’s a psychological trap that some men use to snare women and keep them in their control, and unlike what Rake and Pellicer would like you to believe, it’s not always that effective.
With all due respect to their processes, a man with a charming personality and a sense of personal style is a rare gem that, when found, is among the most prized individuals in the world. Just like a woman bearing the same traits, men that care about others, genuinely listen to what people say, and actually show a bit of sensitivity are quite special in many ways.
Believe it or not women like a sensitive guy.
They want you to be dominant, capable of being forceful when it’s warranted, but when in private or when desired they melt when you become the sensitive, puppy-loving type that will escort an old grandma across the street or watch a chick flick late at night.
Women eat this kind of stuff up, and will go out of their way to keep you around should you divulge that you possess such qualities.
Here are a few other personality traits you might want to think about when it comes to attracting a woman:
Make them laugh.
It’s been said so many times in so many different ways but still bears repeating: women love a man that can make them laugh. Sometimes laughter is the best medicine as the saying goes, and sometimes a good chuckle can ease the tension you might feel on a first date. In any case, humor is a good way to slip your way into a woman’s good graces.
Not only does it reveal that you do in fact have a sense of humor all your own, it shows that you care enough to find a way to lighten up the mood and allow them to feel comfortable around you.
A good laugh can be the gateway to an even better night.
Take your dog on a walk.
It sounds so simple, right? You might be asking yourself why this doesn’t work all the time or why you haven’t thought about it until now, but just wait a second.
For one, it’s not a guaranteed, slam-dunk technique that can get a woman to like you, but it can go a long way.
If you’ve accomplished everything in the first two chapters then your chances will go up considerably if you’re seen to be actively walking a dog and taking care of your canine companions needs. Women find this incredibly sensitive and will eat it up without fail.
3) Become a volunteer.
There are so many opportunities to volunteer your time in so many different venues that it’s almost impossible not to find a place to donate your time and effort to making people’s lives better. It takes so little time and effort to really get into and more than that, it allows a woman to see that you care for another’s needs rather than just your own.
Remember earlier in the chapter when you read that women like to realize you’re sensitive and caring?
Taking the time out of your day to show that you care about someone else will be a surefire way to display that you’re not selfish and can be counted on to be a reliable and very conscientious person.
4) Become a music lover, or a musician.
Now it’s easy to understand that becoming a musician is not easy, nor is it something that is cheap to invest in. But that investment can really pay off if it helps you to become more appealing to a woman. For whatever reason, women are drawn to musicians.
Each woman will say something different when explaining why they are drawn to men that can play an instrument.
For example if you are asking a woman for her phone number you are far more likely to actually get it if you are carrying a guitar slung over one arm than a gym bag. It’s a phenomenon that has been scientifically tested and shown to be quite accurate most times.
So what’s it meant to be a musician? It might mean that you can get a date whenever you want.
Show your sensitive side to a woman and you’ll be much more likely to see her eyes widen with pleasure as well as desire.
Remain the strong, dominant character that they are attracted to in order to get their attention, but also know when to pull out the softer side that loves animals, can play at least a few good chords of music, and doesn’t mind sharing his time with others. The results should speak for themselves rather quickly.
1) You don’t need to be too sensitive.
Some women might like a guy that can bring himself to cry, but there’s no need to be a gusher. In other words, if you need a box of tissues during a particularly sad movie you might be showing a little too much sensitivity.
2) Pay attention.
Women like a guy that’s mindful. If you can show that you’re taking time out of your day to care about theirs, or anyone else’s for that matter, then you’re more likely to keep their attention on you.
3) Find humor in a variety of things.
You don’t have to be the next Jim Carrey or even Seth Rogen, but you should be able to find enough humor in life to make them laugh occasionally. If you hear that sweet laughter more that you can join in with then you’re doing something right.
4) Be genuine.
This means be honest in other words. If you have a dog, then walk them because they need it, not just to meet women. If you want to play an instrument then learn, don’t just carry a guitar around over your shoulder. To attract a woman you need to be honest with them and yourself.
Status and Wealth
You might hear a woman say that this isn’t as important, and while that’s encouraging, secretly every woman desires their chosen mate to be somewhat successful and influential outside of their relationship.
It’s that confidence and aggressive quality all over again, as this can lead you to become successful if done right.
Status and wealth shouldn’t define precisely who you are, but they can help in attracting the type of woman you want.
The trick to this really is to actually possess some status and wealth in order to get the woman you want. Hard work, a willingness to sacrifice time and a few other things along the way, and the necessary education that can help you gain that desired status will all be aspects of this attraction that can help you to appear as though you know what you’re doing.
There are also other factors that can help, and we’ll go into those now:
Wear something red.
I know, this seems like something we should have covered in chapter one, but hear me out.
The color red has long been known as a status symbol among the rich and powerful. In the modern day it’s taken on a few other aspects, but the bold hue of a nice red suit, jacket, or even a car can denote that you are in some ways edgy, wealthy, or even slightly dangerous.
All of these traits possess the inherent ability to present a challenge to women, which is often one that they tend to respond to by paying attention to you. It’s odd, it’s a bit off the wall, but somehow it works.
Try to appear your age or a little older.
Once again, this might seem it belongs in the first chapter, but think about it for a moment. Have you ever seen how many women tend to go for older guys? Even if it’s not a trend in your town it’s a thing somewhere else. Older men tend to project the air of financial stability, experience, and a different outlook on life that isn’t all about looks or even money.
They’re confident in life because they’ve done it, seen it, and women can tell just by looking.
If you look a little older, more distinguished, there’s a chance that women will begin to notice you a little more.
Heighten your status by walking the walk.
In other words, look high profile and women will think twice about just passing you by. Even if you’re not as wealthy as you look, women will tend to at least give you a second glance and perhaps even decide that you’re worth talking to.
Try to find someone that’s “in your league”.
This sounds horrible really, as it seems intent on telling you to settle and don’t reach for your dreams.
But in truth it recommends trying to find someone that is just as attractive as you are. Don’t bother going for the supermodel when you can get the girl next door, who might be prettier than you might have originally believed.
This does two things: It can save you the hassle of wondering whether or not a super-attractive girlfriend will trade up when she finds someone she likes better, and it will save you from thinking that you settled for someone just because you were afraid to go after someone as attractive as yourself.
Present yourself in a confident and professional manner.
You can go back to your jeans, sweats, and other comfy clothes once you’ve established a decent relationship. When you’re looking for a date though it’s wise to at least make an effort to show women that you can in fact look like you’re worth more than just a few bucks.
If you know who you want to go after, or the type of woman you’re looking for, don’t settle just because you haven’t found them. Dating isn’t like fishing as the players and pick up artists would be heard to say, it takes time and effort to find the right woman. The adage that there are plenty of fish in the sea is fairly accurate, but don’t pull up a lungfish when you’re hoping for a sexy tuna.
Be confident in what you have.
So you’re not a millionaire, so what? If you are happy with what you have and confident about how you earn it women will come to appreciate that. If they don’t, then you haven’t found the right one yet.
By now you’ve been made privy to a few things you should have known and probably a few things you didn’t. There are still a few tips that you can learn from in order to attract a woman and make certain that they’ll give you a little more than just the time of day.
What you need to remember most of all is to be bold, be clean, and be confident. If you can keep those thoughts in mind then you’re already way ahead of the game. These added tips are just ways to insure that women will continue to think that you’re a good and honest guy.
In order to keep women thinking that you’re an all-around good guy, try these following steps:
Be the nice guy.
You might have been indoctrinated by now to believe that nice guys finish last, but this just isn’t the case. They have to work harder sometimes thanks to the arrogance and childish ways of other men, but they don’t always need to compete with that type of garbage.
Just be the kind, gentle person you know you can be, and women will notice. Be confident, but be nice about it. Be aggressive, but be nice.
The only time you have to worry about being too nice is when you feel that size 9 pump pressing down on your back as you’re used as a doormat.
Be aware of the flirting.
Some women are not all that obvious about it. Let’s face it guys, sometimes women want men to be mind-readers and this just isn’t going to happen.
Instead of taking up any New Age book about reading thoughts however just pay attention to them. If they smile at you, smile back, if they sit closer to you, don’t move away.
Be flirty, let them make the first move, and by all means respond, don’t just ignore them and don’t be coy. They are flirting for a reason, and you should be flattered first and excited second.
It can’t be stressed enough to pay attention to the woman that takes the chance on you. Listen to what they have to say, take notice of their appearance, their speech patterns, EVERTHING. It’s all important and it’s all worth noting if you find yourself attracted to them.
If all you’re doing is staring at their body then you earned that strikeout.
Women like men that present a little bit of danger if not a lot. It’s a form of excitement and can bring a flush to their cheeks as they think of how brave you must be.
While it’s not something they willingly admit to at all times, most women are excited by men that engage in dangerous sports and activities, finding that they are drawn to the danger and the thrill.
Be a little dangerous.
This doesn’t mean go out and be stupid. But definitely try to spice up your life a bit with a few daring activities. It will get you noticed more than you think.
Listen to the woman.
Don’t be a slave and don’t be a yes-man. Listen to them and pay attention to show that you care about what they say, not just how they look.
Don’t be a doormat, but be the nice guy that is dependable and can be relied on.
Ultimately you are in charge of how you go about attracting a woman. By taking these steps you’re at least on the right track to finding a date, or maybe a long term relationship.
What you need to remember is that women like nice, confident, and trustworthy guys.
Don’t be the jerk that uses women because he loves having that kind of power. Be the man that loves women and wants to prove he’s worth their time. You’ll have a much better chance at landing the right woman.
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